I have a blog for food and a blog for fashion. Then I have this, tied to my name, which keeps me conflicted on whether or not this is a professional blog or a personal blog or perhaps a bit of both. A new year is rolling in and I am making a stand.
This blog is about my thoughts and my life.
After all, your career is chosen because that’s (hopefully) what you’re passionate about, which ultimately defines who you are and the traits you carry.
With that said, onwards we go!
Life has been busy and full of reminiscing the last few weeks. A few things have been switched around, mentally and physically. Somewhere in the midst of it, I found a lot of characteristics in myself that I thought I had lost. One of them being the patient, happy, content person I was before I left to New York 6 years ago. It took watching someone I love in pain for me to realize that I have many things to be thankful and happy for.
My birthday is coming up in 2 days and at the age of 27, I have achieved more than I could have ever imagined I would 10 years ago. I am married to a wonderful and supportive man, I am successful, I have an amazing family that will always be there for me, and I have managed to keep a great group of friends; the ones who you don’t have to talk to everyday to know that when you do speak again, you will always pick up where you left off.
In the end, who cares if my shoes are not brand name? They’re comfortable. Who cares if I don’t have that purse that I’ve been coveting? It’s not that I am not able to afford it, it’s because I am smart and use my money wisely. Who cares if I weigh a bit more than I think I should? Enjoying good food makes me happy. Who cares if my smile isn’t as perfect as I want it to be? At least I am able to laugh. Who cares if I will probably never have that beautiful Porsche I’ve always wanted? I have no one to impress, anyway.
I have truly realized that life is too short to worry about the petty things “that could be better”. There is much more to life than to weigh it down by the unhappiness of wanting more. I refuse to let objects be my vessel to happiness.
Letting all of it go has been the best thing I could have done for myself, and it couldn’t have come at a better time.
I recently received an email from my friend Charmaine containing a PopSugar article with some other keys to being happy that I wanted to share.
Stop being materialistic
If you find joy in things, that happiness will be short lived. Because what you have will never be enough, and things can always be lost or broken. Wanting what you don’t have will create unhappiness, so you should always be content with what you do currently have.
Not defining yourself with a title
Just like material possessions, titles can always be lost. If you define yourself by an occupation or a role you carry, such as a doctor or being a mother, you may feel lost if the title was taken away from you. You need to find happiness in your own self and just be happy about being you.
Getting rid of your clutter
Having too much clutter in your house can take a toll because a disorganized mess can cause inner turmoil and stress. Take steps to reduce the clutter in your home by throwing out, donating, or selling items you don’t use or need.
Surrounding yourself with positivity
A big factor of happiness is to be around people who are positive. Toxic people can negatively influence your mood so be sure to watch out for them.
And there you have it. As I go into 2012, supposedly the last year for humans according to the Mayans, I am going to live lightheartedly and enjoy the hell out of life.
Happy birthday to me.